I like to think that most people are introduced to their significant other’s family in a well thought out, planned manner. Unfortunately, I always seem to get the family ambush introduction….
It was a chilly day in February 2010. There was snow on the ground. I was at my boyfriend’s house on the couch in pajamas, messy hair, smudged makeup… quite the sight. We were talking about what to have for breakfast when the phone rang. As Jason talked on the phone, he looked up at me. I could sense that something horrible was about to happen. Sure enough, the next words out of his mouth were “sure, come on over.”
As soon as he hung up he asked if I minded that his son, Jayden, was getting dropped off. I hadn’t met his then 2-year-old son, but it didn’t seem like it would be too bad. I took a deep breath and relaxed a little. Two year olds don’t care about your hair, make-up and outfit, do they? Then he continued… “my mom and my sister are bringing him by, they want to meet you.”
I remembered he said his sister lived next door, and his mother lived in the house next to that one. It wouldn’t take anyone long to get there. Suddenly, I transformed into a primping tornado! Whirling around, changing clothes, brushing my hair, cleaning up my make-up… It was a sight to behold. You never know how fast a woman can clean herself up until you ambush her with meeting your family.
I managed to plop back down on the couch the same moment that they knocked on the door. I’m still extremely nervous, but Jason reassured me that there’s nothing to worry about. And there wasn’t. His mom and his sister were very nice. They didn’t stay very long. And Jayden was pretty cute, although very shy.
After Jason’s mom and sister left, it was just the three of us. The next moment is the one that pretty much defines Jayden’s personality. Jason quietly said to Jayden, “This is Jenn, why don’t you go say ‘Hi.'” I tried to look as non-threatening as possible in order to encourage the little guy to be comfortable.
It worked. Maybe a little too well….
He wanders over to me, studies my smiling face briefly, then reaches up with outstretched hands and….WHOA! I’m pretty sure my eyes about popped right out of my head and my cheeks turned bright red!
I’ve met the children of men I’ve dated before, but this is the first time any of them had copped a feel! What are you supposed to do?
Jason, naturally, busts up laughing. I have this horrified/amused look on my face… because, lets face it. It was funny. After the brief ta-ta tickling moment, Jayden wandered around looking for something else to play with. All I could think was, “thank goodness he waited to do that until after Jason’s mom and sister left!”
After the initial shock of what happened died down, we all sat down to watch a movie. Jayden, apparently pleased with our first encounter, insisted on sitting right next to me.
All in all, I think it went pretty well. 🙂